I started reading this comment without looking at the name and thought, my niece’s middle name is Bee too! But then realized this is my sister writing about my niece. Ha!

Hi Lynn! Grief is the last way we get to love someone, and like me, you will always love your brother. Holding a lot of space for you and your grief right now–the first year is very wild and weird! Justin died 4 years ago this November, and one thing I’ve learned is that while his death was very traumatic (I was with him when he died), my grief journey has been SO profound. I’ve grown so much and I know he would be SO proud of me. I know your brother is too.

Get it removed or faded & covered up with something else. I got a tattoo on my collarbone that ended up being larger than I wanted (lessons learned: have several pre-tattoo sessions with your artist first & don’t be talked into something “bolder” if that’s not you). Also I’m somewhat large chested & ended up with a lot of unwanted attention. Good luck if you decide on a fade or removal- it hurts like hell & the process takes awhile but I’m not sorry I’m doing it.